Yet for many, this beautiful design is tragically broken. Instead of love, families can become a place of hostility. Instead of unity, division takes root. Instead of truth, lies dominate. One devastating example of this breakdown is what we call narcissistic family mobbing.

To understand Narcissistic Family Mobbing, watch this video and then read on.

It is a form of collective bullying in a dysfunctional family system, where one member is unfairly targeted and abused by other family members, often at the instigation of a narcissistic parent or relative. This dynamic creates a “scapegoat” who becomes the focus of blame for all the family’s problems, deflecting attention away from the real sources of dysfunction.

At the heart of this pattern lies deception. Jesus said of Satan that “when he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:44). Narcissistic family mobbing thrives on lies—rumors, false accusations, twisted perceptions—and these lies serve to wound, divide, and destroy.

The Relationship Dynamics: 

• The central narcissist: A domineering family member who controls through fear, rage, and manipulation, maintaining a facade of perfection.

• The flying monkeys (enablers): Siblings or relatives who support the bullying, whether out of fear or desire to secure favor.

• The scapegoat: The individual singled out for blame, often the one who refuses to conform to the family’s distorted reality, frequently the most empathetic or truth-telling member.

This system mirrors the ancient biblical pattern of scapegoating: placing blame on one in order to cover the sins of many (Leviticus 16). But unlike God’s ordained foreshadowing of Christ as the true scapegoat who bore sin to bring life, narcissistic mobbing heaps false blame on the innocent, crushing them under a burden they were never meant to carry.

The weapons of mobbing are many: gaslighting, scapegoating, isolation, verbal aggression, triangulation, rumor-spreading, even digital harassment. Each tactic works to undermine the victim’s sense of reality, dignity, and belonging. These tools are not merely human strategies—they echo the enemy’s schemes, for the devil seeks only to “steal and kill and destroy” (John 10:10). The trauma left behind can be profound.

The Impact:

• Depression and anxiety from years of judgment, isolation and gaslighting.

• Low self-esteem and self-doubt as lies get internalized.

• PTSD from repeated cycles of judgment and abuse.

• Emotional invalidation that makes it difficult to trust one’s own feelings.

• Trust issues that erode relationships even outside this family.

• Spiritual abuse which masks the love of God with shifting human standards of spirituality.

Narcissistic family mobbing is evil and often devastates the targeted individual for life. But into this despair, God speaks comfort: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). The victim of mobbing is not abandoned. Christ Himself was despised and rejected (Isaiah 53:3), and He stands in solidarity with those who suffer unjustly.

Strategies for Breaking Free:

Healing from narcissistic family mobbing is neither simple nor easy, but with God’s help it is possible.

• Set and enforce strong boundaries. Scripture calls us to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23). Protecting your well-being is not selfish—it is godly stewardship.

• Limit contact if needed. Just as Jesus withdrew from hostile crowds, so too may we withdraw from destructive environments.

• Seek outside support. God places us in the wider Body of Christ so that we may “carry each other’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2).

• Practice self-care and renewal. Jesus invites us: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).

• Recognize and validate your feelings. Pour out your heart to God (Psalm 62:8) and know He receives you with compassion.

• Observe, don’t absorb. The mobbing reflects the family’s dysfunction, not your worth. In Christ, your identity is secure: “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” (1 John 3:1).

If you have been the scapegoat, I see you. I lived this nightmare for decades. Through prayer, counseling and boundaries, I have finally begun to heal. I am no longer defined by the false accusations of our family but only defined by the truth of God’s Word. My Heavenly Father calls me chosen, beloved, and redeemed. What others meant for harm, He can use for good (Genesis 50:20). I choose to believe that no weapon formed against me will prevail (Isaiah 54:17).

My life is now in a new chapter where my worth in Christ steadies me and releases me to soar without fear. The chains of narcissism are broken not because others changed but because I  am taking intentional steps to forgive and heal. 

If you are struggling under the weight of narcissism, I want to encourage you today – your story is not over. God is a God of restoration, and He promises to rebuild the broken places, to give beauty for ashes, and to turn mourning into joy (Isaiah 61:3–4). Surrender your suffering to Him and intentionally start your healing journey one breath at a time. There is hope!

Prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We bring before You every son or daughter wounded by narcissistic family mobbing. Lord, You see the pain, the lies, the low self-worth and the rejection. Pour Your healing truth into their hearts. Silence every false tongue raised against them, and replace lies with Your unshakable Word. Wrap them in Your love, remind them of their worth, and give them strength to walk in freedom. Surround them with safe people, restore what was lost, and bring beauty out of their ashes. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

You are not the lies spoken about you—you are the beloved child of the Living God.

A few families are gathered in the living room.  They welcome us warmly.  The worship begins.  There is no organ here to lead us in our singing. But the praise songs are just as sweet and come from the heart. As in the other church, a leader leads us in prayer and Bible reading. Another gives the message. After the service, we have a happy time visiting with our brothers and sisters in this church.

You may wonder ‘what is a church?’  The church of the Lord Jesus is not a building. Each church is the people who meet together in the Lord’s name.  As a family of believers, we love and care for each other, pray and support each other and serve each other. Then, the Bible says, there is one church in the whole world!  What does that mean? The Christians all over the world, who have put their faith in the Lord Jesus and have decided to follow only Him, form this church. The Lord Jesus is the ‘Head’ of this church.  This church is called the ‘Body of Christ’. He breathes his life into his church and cares for us.  We are his very own.

 The Bible says: “Christ is the Head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.” As you are reading this, wherever you may be in the world, whatever your culture and language maybe if you are a follower of Jesus, you belong to the world-wide church of our Lord. And you are my brother or sister in Christ.  Isn’t this wonderful?! I love you and I pray for you. I care about you. Are you glad, my friend, that you came to church with me to worship God with his family today through these pages?

Prayer: “Lord Jesus, thank You for making me a part of your world-wide church family.”

Why did this movie particularly impact me? Because it is the biography of a man who is a hero. As my husband, Peter said, “It’s a true life fairytale, worth far more than the cost of the tickets!” There are almost no words to describe what this man has done in his lifetime – puts the rest of us to shame. His life plays out like a modern-day Moses story. He is possibly one of the most amazing men living on the face of the earth being used by God in a powerful way to fulfill His command in James 1:27, “Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans…in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.” (NLT)

Impact #1: God Chooses the Weak of the World: “For consider your calling, brothers [sisters]: not many of you were wise according to worldly standards, not many were powerful, not many were of noble birth. But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong; God chose things despised by the world, things counted as nothing at all, and used them to bring to nothing what the world considers important. so that no human being might boast in the presence of God.” 1 Corinthians 1:26-29

This passage describes Mully! He came from a very impoverished family which boasted an alcoholic, abusive father who could not find a job and provide for them. They lived in a mud hut out in the village. From there, his family abandoned him and left him to his own devices which led him to utter hopelessness and despair. He begged and stole to make a living. He had no chance of an education nor a job. Yet, today, it is Mully and his wife Esther who have changed the lives of thousands of orphans in Kenya giving them a future and a hope here, in this life, and in eternity while the rest of us who had that comfort and stability, family, home, education and job sit back doing very little in comparison to impact God’s kingdom. The Bible does say that to whom much is given, much is expected. Let’s rethink our lives.

Impact #2: Dying to Live:“Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. Whoever loves his life loses it, and whoever hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” John 12:24-25.

Mully had a God-encounter when he was at the peak of his business success with a transportation empire, real estate business as well as becoming the oil baron in large parts of Kenya. He was a millionaire who was respected and worshipped, living in huge houses with servants to tend to his family’s needs. While on that peak, he had an encounter with God where he wrestled for hours with Him and surrendered, choosing to stop all his business dealings and instead remembered his own life struggles and went out to take orphaned children off the streets to help them have home and family. This required his entire family, including his six children to make major changes. His was a family that had grown up in the lap of luxury, living the high life of comfort, wealth and travels, with servants at their beck and call. Dad was now acting like a crazy man, not bringing in any more money and expecting all of them to change with him. They now had to give up all that luxury, roll up their sleeves and help in care of the filthy, angry, hurting, lice-infested orphaned children from the streets of Kenya. They started out hating the kids and even had to be sent away to boarding school. But as funds ran low, they could not even afford the school and were forced to return home to live and study and care for the orphaned kids. They soon saw the power of God at work in their parents’ lives and the effects of their love and care on the orphaned children’s lives. Today, all of Mully’s biological children serve in the Mully’s Children’s Family Ministry. Each of them had to die to self to gain eternal joy. The entire family exemplifies John 12:24-25.

Impact #3: Equality in Christ: “Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its Creator. Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.” Colossians 3:9-11

Two of Mully’s adult children married rescued children. This may not seem like a big deal in a western culture like we have in the US but in most developing nations, blood lines, family, education, success, and morality play a HUGE role in how people are treated. This is true in most Christian communities too. So, for a son or daughter of the organization’s head to marry a rescued, street child and former orphan speaks volumes. It means that they went counter-culture and ensured that every person’s value and identity was seen through the eyes of Scripture and not through the world’s lenses. It implied that all the children whether biological or rescued were rightfully treated with the value and dignity endowed on them by their Creator! What a gift Mully has given his family!

Impact #4: Welcoming the Orphaned & Vulnerable Children: “So the servant came and reported these things to his master. Then the master of the house became angry and said to his servant, ‘Go out quickly to the streets and lanes of the city, and bring in the poor and crippled and blind and lame.” Luke 12:22-23

Mully exemplified this truth. Most of his friends did not understand his mission and watched from the sidelines. But, he was clear that as a former rescued street child, his mission was to rescue the most vulnerable, orphaned children. He welcomed them in droves into His home. Starting from three kids, he went on to invite over 12,000 children to become a part of his family and a part of God’s family. He was “Daddy Mully” to all the children. They were loved and cared for as his own in obedience to God.

Impact #5: God’s Kingdom vs Man’s Kingdom: “And the master said to the servant, ‘Go out to the highways and hedges and compel people to come in, that my house may be filled. For I tell you, none of those men who were invited shall taste my banquet.” Luke 12:24

Kenya is a predominantly Christian country. Yet, when Mully, the street kid who had lived years begging on the streets and had travelled by foot for hours to reach the big city of Nairobi, went from person to person and house to house begging for help to find a job, nobody wanted to help him. If they did look, it was only to tell him to stop being lazy by begging but instead to go find work! The only person who willingly gave Mully a hand up was an Indian woman living in Kenya who welcomed him into her home and gave him the job of a maid! That gesture of acceptance made a world of difference for Mully. It was the first time in his life that he had a place to stay and food to eat. He worked extremely hard and in just six months they promoted to a Manager of 70 people in that family’s business. It was in their business employ, in the fields that Mully met and married his beautiful wife. He was now well on his way to hard work and success!

In contrast, when Mully rescued children from the streets, many of whom had serious problems, the church that Mully attended decided that the children didn’t fit into their societal norms and he was told to not return with “those children” or he will be kicked out of the church! What a tragic picture of Christianity. How often do we feel the same way in our churches too? Are we welcoming of the differently-abled, the hurting, the angry, the abused, the messy people of this world or do we turn our backs on them because they don’t fit into our pretty, neat, moral Christian ideological box? Do we remember Jesus’ words when He began His ministry? “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because He has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed.” Luke 4:18 Is our ministry and welcome in our churches and homes in line with Jesus’ vision and mission?

Mully went on to create a mini paradise in the desert with the help of all the children he rescued. Today, his family joyfully partners with him in serving the Lord so beautifully caring for over 12,000 children. This is a jaw dropping movie which can only be explained as the hand of God moving to raise up a modern-day Moses! Wow!

Impact #6: The Gospel in Action: “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love He predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of His glorious grace, with which He has blessed us in the Beloved. In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of His grace, which He lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of His will, according to His purpose, which He set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in Him, things in heaven and things on earth.” Ephesians 1:3-10

Mully is a type of Christ. He laid everything down – his wealth, status, power, control, family, friends, and life itself for the sake of unknown children who could very well retaliate in anger, even kill him. He was paying the price to rescue them and make them a part of his family. Mully chose to lay it all down, knowing he could lose his very life on the streets at night to give them temporal and eternal hope. So too, God chose to send His beloved Son into the world (John 3:16), knowing that we would hate Him, reject and persecute Him and finally torture and take His very life. But, He willingly paid the price for us orphans so that we could become Sons and Daughters of God Most High! We just have to accept His invitation and His love to gain eternal peace, joy and rest as His beloved children. Don’t delay – accept His free gift today! He paid the price, its free for us!

Impact #8: Gratitude and Fruit: “We love each other because he loved us first. If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen” 1 John 4:30-21.  And he answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.” Luke 10:27

Finally, this movie should drive each of our hearts to be moved into action. The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few! Let’s pray that the Lord of the harvest will nudge many of us to step out of our comfort zones into the suffering world to  care for the least of these. In so doing, we could give eternal hope to a child and bring Jesus much glory. Friends, there are over 450,000 children in the US foster system and over 17 million (17,000,000) orphans in India alone. Each child has been created by God for a purpose and like Mully has the potential to impact many lives if we step down and walk with them.

Would you please prayerfully ask God to open your eyes to His truths – it might look like you are losing here on earth if you stepped down but you gain eternally like Mully and his family are gaining! I want to encourage everyone to see the movie Mully (https://mcfus.org). It is worth every dollar you pay.